How do you really know when it’s time to divorce? Sometimes relationships can be worth saving, and other times the better option may be to call it quits.
There are some signs that it might be time for a divorce.
Lack Of Respect
If your partner shows you little respect, it’s time to move on. Respect should underpin your relationships, whether it’s with your partner, parents, children or friends.
You Can’t Resolve Conflicts
It’s completely normal to experience conflict with your partner. But not being able to resolve those conflicts amicably should ring warning bells for you.
You Don’t Want To Resolve Issues
Having no enthusiasm for resolving your issues is another sign that it might be time to move on. Living in a constant state of fighting combined with apathy is not healthy.
Try to be realistic about your relationship. Expecting things from your partner that are just not possible is a recipe for disaster. Likewise if your partner is expecting things from you that you can’t or don’t want to provide, it’s time to move on.
You’re Emotionally Detached
Relationships begin because we want to be with someone; we want to love and share our lives with them. Over time, if you’ve become emotionally detached from that person, your relationship and your interactions with them, it could be a sign.
If your partner is a serial cheater, are they someone you really want to be with? You should be able to trust them implicitly without worrying about if they’re lying or cheating on you.
Your Mental Health Is Suffering
Taking care of your health isn’t just about eating well and exercising regularly. Mental health is so important and needs to be a priority in this day and age. If you feel like your relationship is causing your mental health to suffer, ask yourself if there is a way to turn that around or is the only way to solve this to walk away?
They Stop Being Your Go To Person
Who’s the first person you call when you want to share some news – good or bad? For most people in a relationship, it’s their partner. When your partner stops being the first person you want to share something with, perhaps it’s another sign that they aren’t that important to you anymore.
Do you feel like you always have a hidden agenda? Or does you partner seem to have one? When you can’t trust each other to be upfront and honest with each other about absolutely everything, it could be time to call it quits.
There’s No Affection
When’s the last time you kissed, hugged, held hands with each other? Affection and intimacy isn’t just about sex. It’s also all the hundreds of other signals you can give each other that you love each other.
Unwillingness To Compromise
Being able to compromise is crucial to any relationship. An unwillingness to compromise from either person can be detrimental to a marriage or partnership. Relationships are about give and take – not just take, take, take.
You’re No Longer A Team
Feeling like you’re part of a team with your partner helps you to get through life’s ups and downs together. If you feel like you’re no longer a team and are rather working towards different goals in different ways, ask yourself why you’re still with each other.
You Can Imagine A Life Without Them
Close your eyes and look 10 years into the future. What do you see? Are you still with your current partner? Are they part of your life and an important one? Or can you easily picture a future without them?
Before you make any life-changing decisions, try to speak to your partner. Communication can be crucial to any relationship, and talking your issues through before deciding to get a divorce can help you clarify what the right decision is for both of you.
If you think it’s time for a divorce, speak to Ian Shann about how divorce mediation can help you move on quickly and amicably.