As well as dealing with the practical issues, parenting and financial matters, it is important that you find ways to manage the emotional upheaval that will inevitably occur. Here are a few tips to help you when it comes to coping with separation.
It is normal to have a range of strong emotions – anger, sadness, guilt are just a few.
Try to accept your feelings, even if you don’t like them. You do not have to act on them.
Resist the urge to send an email or a text when you are feeling really upset.
When you are feeling stressed it is unlikely you will cope with normal life as you usually do. You may feel irritable, forgetfulness and experience feelings of confusion and doubt. You may feel exhausted and your sleep patterns may change. Be kind to yourself. Don’t beat yourself up with negative thoughts.
Get support. Talk to friends and family members you can confide in. Don’t go it alone. But choose your confidants wisely. Avoid talking to people who will just fuel your rage, or make you feel worse. Think about talking to professional, for example, a doctor or a psychologist, if you feel overwhelmed.
Look after your physical health. Eat healthy foods, drink plenty of water, exercise every day. Watch your coping mechanisms and try not to slip into unhealthy ones. Numbing yourself with drugs, alcohol, junk food just creates more problems.
A relationship breakdown can mean that you lose connections and friendships. You may benefit from finding new interests and new people to be around. This allows you to have new conversations and create some new beginnings.
Our family mediation team in Perth have helped hundreds of clients when it comes to coping with separation. We understand what you’re going through and can help you get through your separation too. Contact us to find out more about our mediation services in Perth.