Separation isn’t easy. It can be one of the toughest things to go through in life, but there are some simple ways that you can make it easier on yourself and your children.
Here are our suggestions of ways to help you through a separation.
Don’t Go It Alone
You are not a superhero. You don’t have to do everything on your own.
Lean on those closest to you when you need support. Whether it’s bringing over dinner for you after a long day, watching your kids while you attend divorce mediation, or simply having a coffee and a chat to offload, don’t be afraid to ask for help.
Allow Yourself To Have Feelings
A separation is always emotional. People might tell you to be practical and think logically about everything, but that’s just impossible, unless you’re a robot (you’re not).
Allow yourself to work through your feelings but try not to wallow in them. It’s completely natural to feel angry, sad, scared or worried. But don’t let those emotions take over.
Remember the reasons why you’ve separated and focus on the positive things you have in your life.
Take Care Of Yourself
If you’ve got children, there’s no way you can look after them if you don’t look after yourself first.
As parents we tend to put ourselves at the very bottom of the priority list. But if we don’t look after ourselves, it makes it that much harder to get through the day and raise our children as best we can.
Make sure you get some time to yourself, even if it’s 10 minutes to meditate before bed, time to drink your coffee before it goes cold, or 5 minutes of yoga stretching before you start the day.
Find whatever works for you to allow yourself to stay grounded and focused during this stressful time.
Find A New Interest
Often when couples separate or divorce, they discover time to themselves that they may rarely have had before.
Put this time to good use and find an interest that occupies your time.
Sitting around twiddling your thumbs is no fun at all. Take a class, join a group, or sign up for something you’ve always wanted to do – the possibilities are endless!
Try To Avoid Arguments With Your Ex
We know, it’s not easy, but try to avoid picking a fight with your ex.
It’s so easy for minor disagreements to boil over into more serious arguments, but in the long run, it won’t help either of you.
If you need to stay connected because of children or any other reason, try to find a way to be civil and polite to each other.
When it comes to working out your differences and moving on with your lives, family mediation could be the best solution.
It’s much cheaper and quicker than using family lawyers and taking it through the Family Court, and it allows you to decide between yourselves what would be the best outcome for all.