We often get told by people that it’s actually really hard to separate. The logistics and admin involved can be overwhelming and lead to people staying in bad relationships long after it’s time to move on. Over the next few weeks we will give you a few suggestions on how to smooth the process which come from years of helping people get through marriage and relationship breakdowns. We want you to think of Move On as your divorce coach!
So to kick off, here are a few practical tips for when you actually decide to call it quits and separate.
- Take photos of your personal property, especially if you are leaving the shared home
- Make copies (or retain originals) of all financial documents and keep them in a safe place
- If you have kids, don’t try to prevent them from having contact with the other parent unless there are issues of violence or abuse.
- Visit your children’s school to let them know the separation has occurred. Schools need to know so they can help monitor children’s adjustment to separation.
- Keep a diary, people often find it difficult to remember timelines and dates, if you do end up having to go to court m it’s important to have this info.
- If you are struggling with your grief reactions at the time of separation, your GP can refer you under Medicare for some sessions from a psychologist or counsellor. Speaking from personal experience, it can help to get professional help to deal with the emotional fall out.
- Talk to your friends and family members for support.
- Be open minded about attending counselling for yourself or your kids.